I was haunted by this evil phrase. A phrase that gives me the urge to start typing again.I do not know where does it comes from, it just there in my mind.Mingling, dancing and jumping in front of me all the time.
DISCOVER?
well, what is the so-well-hidden thing that one have to spend the whole damn life just to figure it out?
LIFE?
perhaps that will be the most common answer that everyone will gives.But what is that actually?
Have you discovered yours? still discovering?or you just don't even bother to discover it?
But how do I discover myself? THROUGH THIS!
None of us are born with an instruction manual, telling you how to live your life and things like that.
So some of us might says that..owh!life is hard..I don't know how to go on with my life..I just want to die..bla bla bla..they just choose to give up you know. And I know that everyone experience that sometimes..especially when life gives you lemons!
so back to the topic, how can one discover his/her own self?
1. Through experiments!
By saying that, I'm not asking you to put yourself in a laboratory and make yourself swallow all sort of colourful liquids kind of experiments!It is the test or I shall say self-checking kind of experiment where you put yourself in different situations and see what happens next.It is like you volunteering yourself to speak on a stage, and after the particular speech you'll find the outcomes.
i. you find it enjoyable standing on a stage and performing(you can be a great speaker!)
ii.you shake terribly and feel unease facing the huge crowd(overcome it by practising more!)
this is the experiment that I meant,PUT yourself in something "new" to know yourself better(what you do best and what not).
2.Through Observation
You observe the people around you.I love doing this especially in my classroom(I'm not being a stalker or pervert to check on other people)but that is the way I learn about myself. If you really settle down and watch the live movie playing around you,you'll see different people act differently at different situations.I often heard about the saying that"other people are your mirrors,they reflect your life".And it is proven valid! When you see someone has rice sticking at his face,and I'm pretty sure the first thing you do is to touch on your face checking if you have any on yours before you let them know about the rice on their face.As I said,you don't need a mirror!mirrors are everywhere!It reflects not just physically,but also mentally/characteristically.I have a friend who always get agitated over small things,and everything that s/he says are correct,you just can't correct them unless you want to get famous on his/er Facebook wall.Whenever you observed something(no matter good or bad) on other people,reflect it on yourself,ask yourself these :
"What do I feel when they do it to me?"
"am I a person like that?"
"If I'm in their shoes will I do the same?"
3.through front stabbing
Life is full will uncertainty,well, they say it is a box of chocolate.You'll never know when will you get stab from the back.ouch!that must be a lot of pain,don't worry that is not the "stab" I meant.True friends are the ones that stab you in your front!Check your friend list and find out if you have friends who dare to point out your weaknesses instead of talking bad about you at the back.If you have none please GO GET at least ONE!Let them stab you!!It sound so wrong,but sometimes we just need this kind of reminder/correction from our peers, especially when we are just too blind to see what we have and who we are.Perhaps it is in our human nature that we all constantly think that we can never go wrong.I personally prefer friends that tell me how fat, how ugly, how lazy, how bad I am because I know these people know me well and they are being truthful as a friend.The key point is,ACCEPTANCE. Accept other people's comments or advises,I believe it will shape a better you!
These are all based on my real life experience,use it at your own risk! :)
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Till then,
xoxo
Princess Evon
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